My therapist always asks how I’m doing — or even worse, how I’m “feeling.” And you know what — I realized I have no idea how to make that determination without considering my work. If I’m not publishing stuff and getting feedback, how the fuck am I supposed to know how I’m doing/feeling?
I’ve been into men’s psychology to help understand myself and you’re hitting on a very important story.
Men and women are different. Yes I said it.
If you want to do therapy do it. But research and experience shows that talking it out only goes so far for men.
We need to feel powerful, important and that we are contributing in a meaningful way that helps ourselves and others.
I love the spiritual ideal of every person has inherent value. It’s beautiful. It’s the major thread in Western civilization and it’s necessary.
But it doesn’t mean you can just sit around and feel good about yourself.
It’s like that stupid book “the secret”.
If all we do is fill our mind with dreams of what we desire it won’t mean a damn thing without the key of action.
We still need to act no matter what.
We are not trees.
Movement is required and the aspect of ourselves that judges us to understand where we are in the hierarchy is necessary and it’s another important component of why we are the dominant species on the planet.
I’ll check out the hourly emails but might be too far even for you :p
If you didn't learn it as a kid, maybe as an adult is not a matter of accepting that everyone and yourself has inherent value just by existing, but that is a choice you make and force yourself to do it everyday until it's stuck with you
You learned, as a kid, to value yourself based on what comes back when you ping off of other people. Some people learned to value themselves based on their bank account or their place in a status hierarchy. It's kind of arbitrary but you can't just change it on a whim.
Come to think of it, I do the pinging thing too. I hope your reply doesn't ruin my self-esteem. But that's a lot of responsibility I'm putting on you, considering I haven't given any clues as to what kind of reply I'm hoping for.
Hey Ryan,
I’ve been into men’s psychology to help understand myself and you’re hitting on a very important story.
Men and women are different. Yes I said it.
If you want to do therapy do it. But research and experience shows that talking it out only goes so far for men.
We need to feel powerful, important and that we are contributing in a meaningful way that helps ourselves and others.
I love the spiritual ideal of every person has inherent value. It’s beautiful. It’s the major thread in Western civilization and it’s necessary.
But it doesn’t mean you can just sit around and feel good about yourself.
It’s like that stupid book “the secret”.
If all we do is fill our mind with dreams of what we desire it won’t mean a damn thing without the key of action.
We still need to act no matter what.
We are not trees.
Movement is required and the aspect of ourselves that judges us to understand where we are in the hierarchy is necessary and it’s another important component of why we are the dominant species on the planet.
I’ll check out the hourly emails but might be too far even for you :p
If you didn't learn it as a kid, maybe as an adult is not a matter of accepting that everyone and yourself has inherent value just by existing, but that is a choice you make and force yourself to do it everyday until it's stuck with you
You learned, as a kid, to value yourself based on what comes back when you ping off of other people. Some people learned to value themselves based on their bank account or their place in a status hierarchy. It's kind of arbitrary but you can't just change it on a whim.
Come to think of it, I do the pinging thing too. I hope your reply doesn't ruin my self-esteem. But that's a lot of responsibility I'm putting on you, considering I haven't given any clues as to what kind of reply I'm hoping for.